The 6 letter adjective

One day someone said "Oh!Finally u start behaving like a girl"
Other "Tomboy turning girly"
Another "U are growing pretty,cute and girly"
Well all of this and many others didn't really have much effect on me until their frequency increased lately.
I questioned myself one night 'Is everyone around right? Am i seriously "not girly" kinds of girl? Or does my dressing defines my girly traits?"
Self enquiry alert it was and trust me it did wonders. Then i figured out what is being girly afterall. Who defined timidness and cuteness as an adjective for a woman.
And well if they did then certainly I don't fit into their criteria of it.
I am strong, emotionally stable and can very well handle myself.  I have my views and I don't need to play silly and cute when I am not. And somehow the world around has believed that all this is contrary to one's personality of being a girl.
Not only this, your clothes and look also defines your "girly" nature. And well my sweatshirts and no make-up look doesn't qualifies for it.
So what! Who said all this is what a girl is about.Just because some lady once carried herself this way and others followed her to be like her, does it means this is how we should stereotype a girl's personality. I suppose not.
A modern day girl can be the way she wants. Wear and behave the way she likes.
Be the prim properly dressed or stay in her pants if she wishes to.
Seems like "not so girly" is just being normal girl and rather a girl definition these days is girly and stereotypical:P
And well some may call u a tomboy as a comment someday for being this way or that way.Let them say it.
It isn't a comment afterall.It is their brain approving of your personality by a 6 letter adjective.
Let them fool themselves. Be comfortable in who you are.
Your behaviour defines who you are socially and well your sex defines who you are biologically.
And no one wrote it one a stone to define how your biological being should define your social self. So all the " not so girly" oops correction all the normal girls out there be yourself as there is no limit to your being.

 For the man I love :)

From the time you held me the first time
Your arms have always been comforting for me
You have taught me my first word, and now u hear all my crazy talks
You have held me in my every fall, and taught me my first step of walk
Through my highs and lows
You have always held me strong
No matter how near or far you were
You always made sure
I get what I wanted
Be it my childish wish or my sky high dreams
You have borne them all
 And maybe that’s why
 I am the way I am today
Coz I know no one else in the world
Will endure my frenzy the way you do
And I may not say it explicitly,
But no matter how grown up I become
Yours are the arms, I always love returning to :)

 Lady in white

A journey isn't limited to travelling,it is much more. It teaches you, trains you and most importantly gives you memories. Not always the memories are good ones.Sometimes they may leave you to a big question.
So i was travelling via northern railways and as any other passenger I was quietly sitting and enjoying the view outside,occasionally fiddling with my phone when some commotion caught my attention . As soon as the train started everyone settled except for these two women. They were dressed in pale white saree with basic slipper and had their hairs cut really short. One of  them in her late 50's and other one too young to be carrying such an attire. So the aged lady was trying to finish up her morning chores(as it seemed) the latter politely helped her and while she did her thing the younger one sat on the empty seats.
Her stature completely calm and composed with no jewels, unlike other woman of her age. Her eyes were permanently zeroed to the ground not meeting anyone else's and she kept on arranging her white veil to cover her head.
 I was too confused to judge who she really was. Was she a widow ? Did such a practice of seclusion still exists in India ?
We have often read in  history how widows were treated. How they were snatched with their right of living a basic life? All this disgusted me and so I became curious to interact with her.
To my surprise, she switched her seat and sat next to me. But before sitting she did something really unexpected. She placed a white sheet and then sat on it, as if her trail would make the seat dirty for others or what.
In any case it was quiet for a while before my patience broke and I tried to strike a conversation. We talked for a couple of minutes and then i asked her the much debated question in my head who she really was ? Her reply was something completely unexpected.

She wasn't a widow afterall, she was a 'sadhu' (a saint). A saint who has left these earthly pleasures and stays in the path enlightened by her guru.

How ironical it was. While some women (widows) are intentionally denied of their rights by the society, others (the saints) choose to leave it on purpose. A chosen path and an imposed destiny.

Well was it me over thinking or a general perception that anyone would have framed in my position is something I am still struggling to figure out.

But for all I know life is beautiful and one must enjoy it.
God wouldn't have gifted us with all these pleasures if he wanted us to part with them to be able to devote ourselves to him :)

HERE’S TO NEVER GROWING UP

Brain is the most intricate and complex part of human body. The more it grows the more complex your life gets. Our body functions smoothly because our brain is working smoothly. Well, it is the greatest machinery known to mankind which reasons and develops answers on its own. Someone rightly said ‘food for thought’…you feed this little machine with a breadcrumb and it searches for its source loaf.

And this is the reason why our lives today are a mess. Have you ever wondered how simple and carefree your life was as a child? And now how twisted and complex every relation has become. A child is never bothered by anything apart from his own little world. Neither he gives much thought to other people’s living and their nature nor is he ever curious to find reason for every happening and a result of which his life is always simple and you will mostly find them smiling.

Why can’t our lives remain the same? Why do we think so much unnecessarily? Why helping someone else has now burden. Don’t you think we’ve grown selfish and self-centred?

A child is never afraid to talk to people; even if they are strangers they still greet them with their heart melting smiles. Contrary to which adults think a thousand times before speaking to someone and the smile, well it’s once in a blue moon.

Well you might have your own apprehensions about what to speak, won’t it seem intruding, and will the person be willing to talk?  All these thoughts are just a play of your brain and hence you trouble your lives by not opening up.

Man being a social animal needs to interact and the brain that stops you from doing it is the main culprit. You may have certain fears that restrain you from opening up – speaking irrelevantly, being laughed upon etc etc. And all these are notions developed by your brain as a result of what you have seen and experienced around. Don’t let your brain trick you, even if it seems ill at ease go ahead talk your heart out and be yourself. There are only two possibilities either the group you are around becomes your own or you are still out of place, in any case you will eventually feel good and that’s the whole point of it. And if you fear of getting laughed upon, don’t bother, because thousands of thoughts cross human mind in a day and certainly we tend to remember only the relevant ones. So they probably will forget your incidence within a day.

See it is such thought process that complicates our life. It was so easy when we made friends with just handshake and broke everyday only to reconcile the other day. From a habit of sharing even petty issues like I lost my eraser today to bottling up all the major ones now. We should go ahead and express ourselves.

Brain creates notions about people which may or may not be true. But being humans, whenever we’ve conflict between our mind and heart we always listen to our brain. Consequently we miss on to relations or strain them. Whenever you feel ill about someone, go up to them clear your assumptions and give a start to a great bond.

Life will be much easier if we could just live it with simplicity.